True love is a concept contemplated upon by many, but none has succeeded in providing a flawless definition. Everyone has their own definitions based on their personal experiences.
Mark E. Sharp, a psychologist in private practice who specializes in relationship issues says, “the experience of being ‘in love’ is primarily a feeling, which begins with a powerful attraction and sexual desire. But these initial intense feelings fade over time,” he said. What’s left are “feelings of connection and affection,” if the couple works to sustain them.
It is rare indeed, and if found, it should be “utterly cherished in whatever form it takes.” If you’ve found that special someone, you have to show him your true feelings. These 15 ways will definitely be of help on your quest to get your prospective lover to fall in love with you. If you haven’t found someone special, don’t worry. Following these steps will attract him to you.
#1 Do Not Pretend
The guy should fall in love with your true self, not the one you’re pretending to be. Don’t think he’ll loathe you if you reveal you for who you are. If he does, then he’s not the one for you. Be real. Be you. if he stays and returns your love, he’s the right guy!
Merry Lin, a clinical psychologist says, “Faking your way through life is believing that if you let people know the real you, they won’t like you. The tapes that play in your head say that if people really knew what was going on inside you, they would lose respect for you. While you play those roles, juggling those masks you have to wear and hiding your pain, the pressure increases to keep pretending you have it all together.” Just be yourself. If he stays and returns your love, he’s the right guy!
#2 You Are Beautiful So Be Yourself
Going on a diet, changing your natural hair and wearing clothes you don’t like just to make him look at you isn’t going to work. You are unique just the way you are. Maximizing your uniqueness is all you have to do.
#3 Communicate Well
Communication plays an important role in all kinds of relationships, and love is certainly no exception. Communicating isn’t only about saying the right thing; it is also about listening actively. Give them a chance to speak without jumping right in with your opinion. Keep your cool and listen. You’ll be surprised with the difference it makes. Moreover, listening well would often compel them to say the most important things about themselves.
Laughter is indeed contagious, and it is no secret. The more you laugh and put his brain in the same level of positive vibration, the more comfortable he gets around you. So laugh and he’ll come for more.
#5 Good Attitude
It is no fun to be around someone with a poor attitude. Stay positive and chilled even when things aren’t going right for you.
#6 Be Sweet
Utilize the energy you use to be mean for a more worthy cause. Be kind and you’ll become attractive to any guy.
It is more likely for guys to be attracted to girls who are already attracted to them. Flirting is the best way to let them know. Rachel DeAlto, a relationship expert said “When it comes down to it, flirting is a mindset. It is saying to yourself, “I like them! I want to make them feel good by being nice, complimenting and letting them know that I like them.” You can twirl your hair, but if you are not projecting warmth or even looking at them in the eye, it doesn’t count.”
#8 Be Different
You might come to believe that all guys like the same kind of girls but it is not so. Being different is not wearing flannels when it’s hot. Be yourself and you’ll be unique without any effort.
#9 Be Witty
It is not wise to strike up arguments and try to change a person’s opinions about things. But agreeing with whatever he says won’t make you fun to be around. Be witty and have friendly debates and challenge him then and now.
#10 Get Physical
“Many times people become increasingly shy with the person they love the more time goes by. Keep your ‘sex esteem’ alive by keeping up certain practices on a regular basis. This allows you to remain vibrant, sexy, and engaged in your love life,” says sex therapist Sari Cooper.
Physical contact need not always be initiated by the guy. Wrap your arms around him and lean in for a kiss occasionally.
#11 Don’t Be Too Clingy
You might want to make him spend every moment with you. Respect his individuality and let him enjoy his freedom. Eventually, he’ll open up.
#12 Let Him Call First
It might too tempting to dial him up every time you miss his company and want to tell the day’s happenings. Even if it’s difficult, hold yourself in. Let him call you and when he does, show him how delighted you are to hear from him.
#13 Connect With Eyes
“Eye contact and a smile are all it takes! Three to four seconds of eye contact, plus a smile and you are golden. Most guys like to hedge their bets of being shot down, and those nonverbal cues let him know the odds are in his favor,” said DeAlto.
Making eye contact is the body language technique that will make him feel connected to you.
Don’t be too desperate and invade his own space. It will only make it worse.
#15 Be Trustworthy
“I trust you” is a more reliable affirmation of love than “I love you”. So, if he trusts you, keep his secrets safe. A guy who trusts you is on the edge of falling in love with you.
Making a person fall for you is mostly about being yourself. Try to always spread positivity and kindness, and the guy of your heart will choose you!